I found it again on Rock Harbor’s website:

A friend of mine passed me this poem on a creased and wrinkled piece of paper about 15 years ago. I tucked it into my Bible at the time, and have come back to it many times over the years to be reminded of how easy it is to slip back into a life dominated by selfishness and discontent. I hope that it is an encouragement to you, and that you in turn will pass it on to others. Print it out, slip it into your Bible, and just watch what happens…- Darin McWatters

When you are forgotten, or neglected, or purposely set at naught, and you don’t sting and hurt with the insult or the oversight, but your heart is happy, being counted worthy to suffer for Christ…that is dying to self.

When your good is evil spoken of, when your wishes are crossed, your advice disregarded, your opinions ridiculed, and you refuse to let anger rise in your heart, or even defend yourself, but take all in patient, loving silence…that is dying to self.

When you lovingly and patiently bear any disorder, any irregularity, any impunctuality, or any annoyance; when you stand face to face with waste, folly, extravagance, spiritual insensibility- and endure it as Jesus endured…that is dying to self.

When you are content with any food, any offering, and climate, any society, any raiment, any interruption by the will of God…that is dying to self.

When you never care to refer to yourself in conversation, or to record your own good works, or itch after commendations, when you can truly love to be unknown…that is dying to self.

When you can see your brother prosper and have his needs met and can honestly rejoice with him in spirit and feel no envy, nor question God, while your own needs are far greater and in desperate circumstances…that is dying to self.

When you can receive correction and reproof from one of less stature than yourself and can humbly submit inwardly as well as outwardly, finding no rebellion or resentment rising up within your heart…that is dying to self

Are you dead yet? In these last days, the Spirit would bring us to the cross.

“I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death,” Philippians 3:10