Boundaries with Techie Devices
I am learning that boundaries are good and i need more of them. I need boundaries especially in the world of communication/facebook/texting/email…. Do you ever feel slave to these things, like you feel compelled to check them and to respond promptly? In a way i miss the days of coming home and checking your answering machine. You could be out with your family and not be able to be reached. I don’t know about you but i run to answer my cell phone or if i hear the text noise i go to it immediately unless changing a diaper or something. why is that? most the time is it so important that it cannot wait? There is the wonderful blessing to be able to contact others immediately and wherever you are if an emergency occurred. Like the other day i was so thankful that i was able to call jeremy and tell him i was driving to urgent care because i thought i was dying but really it was just a kidney stone. So for that very reason I will still keep my phone on me and turned on most of the time. But one way i am going to set healthy boundaries for myself is turning it to silent during date night, family outtings, or just our evenings with the kids and resist the crazy urge to check it if i hear it humming in my purse. I want to be fully present with my family. I do not want them to feel like they only have some of me. how many times have i been apart of a texting conversation as well as a real conversation with my kids? i may just be an old fart but it is so annoying to me when i am meeting with someone and talking with them while they carry on a text conversation. And believe me i have been equally guilty of this. but i do not want to be. i want to be different. i want others to know that they are worth my time and are special to me. for me, i feel like i am having to compete for their attention and i do not want others to feel the same. so i am working on this and have a long way to go but glad i am trying to put boundaries into place now. hopefully this will set a precedent for when my kids get phones. because it will drive me batty if they are more present with their cell phones than with me.